Hair Transition Finale

It is finally over. It took exactly one year. 12 months from the last of the dye. The red, the brown, the very dark brown (almost black) then the blonde.  I can truthfully say that I love it!  There were days during the first 3-4 months when I wondered if I was strong enough to withstand the line of demarcation but once you get past a certain point you can rest. It’s all easy from there.

In December 2014 we had dyed it so dark brown that it was almost black. My hair looked very harsh and I knew the transition wouldn’t be easy and would be very obvious. I was chasing my roots to the salon every four-six weeks.

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We shortened and highlighted in the beginning. The picture below was taken in June of 2015. This is my best friend Sharon. I never realized how close in color our hair was until I just looked at this picture.  Our hair has never even been near the same color and I’ve had every color in the book.  Believe me…

felicia june 2015

In December 2015, (one year from the darkest hair of all time) the picture below is where I was.  You can see the blonde fringes around my face.

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And now, April 2016 (because I’m late in posting) you can see the final transition.

last gray do

I have some crazy streaks and colors but I think that’s what makes us all unique. Your hair will be a different color of gray than mine. I’ve heard people say, and I’ve said it myself, “if I knew my hair would be as pretty as yours I would do it.”   I seriously had no idea what color/shade I would end up with.  As I was transitioning to my natural color the one thing that I tried to focus on and remember was this: no one could perfect the color that my creator designed just for me.  All I needed to do was be patient, wait and see what He designed for just me.

No matter what anyone else says or thinks, you are beautiful. No matter what hair color you choose, whether it’s your natural color or a bottle/box color, you are beautiful.  I have a friend who, I believe, is gorgeous.  She is constantly getting compliments on her looks. One day I heard someone tell her she was so pretty and she said “My mom always said, ‘pretty is as pretty does.'” It’s what is on the inside that makes us beautiful on the outside.  Be your best self. Be who God created you to be. Let His love shine through you.

I Peter 3:4b …but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

It’s just an Average Day on Everidge, Fifi

Credits:

  • Morgan Howell @ Ego Hour Hair Designers Morgan was with my decision all the way. She was super supportive and made the transition fun and exciting along the way. She is awesome.
  • Sonja Broome, my ever so patient aunt, who is a retired hairdresser. She was my hairdresser for over 30 years before retiring. She helped me through the rough spots, over and over again. 
  • Kristen Harris, my precious, very matter of fact, outspoken daughter, who loves me in spite of my insecurities and many times says the hard stuff that I need to hear.  I know that no matter what, she has my back.
  • Kayla Harris, my sweet daughter in law (a hairdresser) who has been ever so complimentary and supportive of this endeavor.
  • Brad Harris, my precious son who tells his mom that she is beautiful no matter what color her hair is.
  • My sweet mom and dad for always telling me that I’m beautiful.
  • My friend Sharon, who has been in this with me from the beginning. We’ve had some major life transitions in the middle of it but we’re still hanging on strong. 
  • And last but not least, my most patient and kind husband, James. He has been here through the thick and thin of it.  “Should I cut it?” “Should I let it grow?”  “Is it ugly?” “Should I color it?” “Oh my goodness, I can’t stand it another minute.” “My hair!”  “I think it looks ok, what do you think?” I could go on and on.  I’m sure he is glad that this chapter is done.  He has never once said that I look older or asked me to please not talk about it anymore. He just patiently listens and encourages me. Something that he does so well.  Thank you, sweetie.  I love you!

The Grays Have It

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December 2014                                                    December 2015

I thought it was about time for a hair update. I haven’t had color since February of this year. I did highlight to soften the line of demarcation but other than that, nothing.  If I had it to do over again, I’m not sure I would have even went with the highlighting.  I’m enjoying this process. I get many different reactions from: Why? to: Good for you! From: Your hair looks great! to: What are you doing with your hair? Ultimately, everyone gets to decide how they want to style their own hair and everyone has an opinion.  I do know this: I’m loving the freedom from dye and the freedom from of no longer having to chase roots to the salon.  I’m loving the extra cash. Yes! Lots of savings there, approximately $100/month. The softer color has softened my facial features and I believe that I don’t look so harsh. I will let you compare.

Now let’s talk fashion…Colors that I was accustomed to wearing before don’t look the same on me now, so I’m adjusting those.  I’m wearing more blues, grays, purples, teals etc. instead of reds and pinks. I don’t wear as much black and when I do, I try to add a punch of color.  I find from others that are doing this with me that it just depends on what you like and what color your gray is. My gray is more of a pewter color where some may be a beautiful snowy white.  So someone with snowy white hair might not look as good in the same colors as someone with pewter colored hair. Just like some brunettes look good in blue red as opposed to some who look good in orange red. You just have to decide for yourself.

There are several pages on Facebook of women who are transitioning from dyed hair to their natural color.  It has been fun to watch as others transition along with me. Some have transitioned must faster than others. Some have kept their very long hair, other have cut their hair into a pixie cut to get rid of all the color at once. To each her own.  I’ve trimmed and trimmed and am at a silver/gold stage. I have just a few tips of blonde left. If you are interested in transitioning to your natural color, I would suggest becoming a member of couple of these Facebook pages: Going Gray Gracefully, Going Gray Beauty Guide, Gray is the New Blonde, Going Gray, Looking Great.  These are my favorites.  You can get great tips from professionals and from others who have transitioned or are transitioning to their natural color.

Some have said don’t you think you will look older?” “What does James think?”  I thought a lot about the first question before I answered and here is my response.  I’m going to look the same age. My face isn’t changing. My hair isn’t giving me more or less wrinkles. Do I want to look like me with dyed hair or me with natural hair? This is what God has given me and you just can’t improve on that. There isn’t a bottle or box that can give me a color that will look more natural.  I don’t feel one day older when I look in the mirror and as for what my husband thinks, he doesn’t feel like he is with an”old” woman. He is actually very supportive and very complimentary of my natural color.  If my hair color is why my husband is with me then we have bigger problems than the color of my hair. Seriously, my hair has been every color: auburn, brunette, almost black, almost blonde, light brown, dark brown and all of the in-betweens and has been colored for over 30 years. I’ve had every style and cut and have let it grow long. I have had the pleasure of experimenting with many different hairstyles because of the privilege of having a hairdresser in my family for most of my life. The bottom line is this: you have to be ready to do this for yourself.

Have you transitioned to your natural hair color? How did you do it? Was it an easy transition? If you haven’t transitioned to your natural color are you considering it? I would love to hear from you.

Whether I’m painting the walls, rearranging the furniture or letting my hair grow, it’s all part of  just an Average Day on Everidge,  Fifi